Is there anyone that doesn’t like the idea of becoming more
romantically attractive? It’s one of our strongest and most fundamental
motivations, and I’m willing to bet that many of your daily activities
are motivated by it, whether you realize it or not. And that’s not a
bad thing at all—it’s a natural biological process (just think of a
peacock preening its feathers to impress a suitor).
However, the term “becoming more attractive” is usually
intimidating. If you’re anything like me, that phrase just conjures up
images of slaving away in the gym, counting every calorie, spending
hours in the salon, and spending an ungodly amount of money getting
every imperfection sucked, snipped, tucked, dyed, tanned, or cut off.
Exhausting, right? Well, what if I told you that there are some sneaky
tips you can use to cheat the system, and make yourself more
romantically attractive without doing ANY of those things? It’s true!
According to psychological research that I’ve learned in my
Interpersonal Relationships psychology course, these are the top seven
ways to make yourself more romantically attractive to your crush:
1. Be around them a lot
No no no, not in a stalker-ish way. That defeats the whole purpose.
But the proximity effect is a real psychological effect, and a pretty
simple one at that. It states that more you see somebody, the more
likely you are to like them. You see super-hot girls walking around
campus ALL the time, and even when me and my friends aren’t at school,
there are other semi-attractive people there, too. But who are the
people you actually get crushes on, start boning, and eventually start
dating? These would be the people that you see on a regular basis.
2. Make it known that you like them
Yes, ladies and gentlemen, the field of social psychology has
officially pronounced that the whole playing-hard-to-get thing, in
scientific terms, is “moronic.” The reciprocity effect states that you
are more likely to like somebody when it’s known that they like you
back. So yes, you can tell me you’re in love with me already *waits
patiently for inbox to flood*.
3. Be surrounded by attractive people of the opposite sex–but only if you’re a guy
As it turns out, when a girl sees a guy surrounded by attractive
girls, she’ll think of him as more attractive, supposedly because of
social proof (we’ll talk about that later). However, the opposite is
true for guy. When a guy sees a girl surrounded by a group of attractive
guys, he’ll get all intimidated and be all, “Oh no, they probably bench
more than me,” and then leave to go play FIFA and sulk.
The takeaway for this is that if you’re a guy and have ugly girl
friends, get rid of them. If you’re a girl and have attractive guy
friends, get rid of them, unless you’re trying to get with one of them,
in which case, get rid of the rest of them.
4. Get your crush’s friends to like you
Social proof is best defined by saying, “When in Rome, do as the
Romans do,” and it stems from what is probably pure human laziness, as
it turns out that we really don’t like to think for ourselves that
often. How often has this following scenario happened to you: your
friends are all going on and on about how hot this person is, and you
really don’t see it at all. But they keep talking about it, because I
guess this person is REALLY hot, and finally, you start to see it?
Ladies and gentlemen, that is social proof at work. Get your crush’s
friends to like you (or at the very least, hate you but think you’re
super attractive) and your chances are that much better.
5. Wear red
Multiple studies have shown that we’re more attracted to people
wearing red. Science isn’t exactly sure why yet, so don’t press me on
the details. Just do it, and make sure that your “something red” is a
cute red dress or something alone those lines, not a blood-stained
T-shirt or, even worse, a red fedora. My professor didn’t talk about
that in class, but I feel like that’d negate the effects.
6. Put them in fear-raising situations
It’s classic manipulation of misattribution of emotions. In other
words, if somebody is scared, and then they see you, they’ll attribute
their arousal (increased heart rate, adrenaline, feeling like they’re
going to die) to being around you, not the situation. So that
whole taking-your-date-to-a-scary-movie thing? It’s actually a very,
very smart move. Furthermore, this effect is so strong, it still works even when you’re the one being scared and you know exactly what’s happening. Don’t ask me how I know that.
7. Good old-fashioned isolation
No, don’t corner the person you like or kidnap them or any of that
crazy, illegal stuff. But studies show that the more alone time you
spend with someone, the more likely you are to develop feelings for
them. Of course, also the more likely you are to hate their guts and
want to kill them, but you know.
There you have it. According to my psych class, these are the
simplest and most effective scientifically proven ways to win someone
over, and you now have access to all of them. I’m not really a fan of
chasing after guys, but I am a fan of subtle mind tricks that
will help stack the odds in my favor, and I’m sure you are too. So do
with these tips what you will, and good luck.
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